There is abuse on both sides of the debate, which makes for a fair amount of confusion on the interpretation of texts when we start talking about terms like "hierarchy," "equality," "boss" and "subordinate," "complementarian," and "egalitarian." Throw in terms like "patriarchy," "misogyny," and "misandry" for good measure and we're no longer coming to the biblical text open to learn but to ferret out abuse. To be clear, sound biblical interpretation involves looking at the text and determining if the text is descriptive or prescriptive, if what we read in some section of the Word of God is instructive or the explanation of mankind's fallenness.
We should hope to avoid any use of scripture to promote an otherwise unbiblical agenda. A blog post by Rachel Held Evans describes well how scripture can be used to promote hierarchy/patriarchy, but we need to be willing to ask if this is the work of the Word or the individual using it to that end. Said in another way, do we throw out the passage that is so used, or just the interpretation and look at the passage again with fresh eyes? To her credit, Evans says the argument should be framed in terms of what scripture does or does not demand, not just make a social or practical argument (though the context suggests this is less important to her than to evangelicals).
Whatever your position, doesn't it seem that your beliefs are culturally and situationally bound? A culture that is oppressive to either sex cannot expect that group to sing their praises without coercion. A person's personal experience can also drastically change their outlet.
So my question is how might your personal experience in relationships with your better half (did you just picture a particular gender?) influence your understanding of the Bible? Does your position demand you ignore something in scripture and, if so, why?
How can we, as a culture, avoid the extreme positions of oppressing women and demeaning men? Let me know your thoughts!